T.J. was raised in a military family, and as such, she has spent a great deal of her life relocating from state to state. This constant uprooting was especially difficult for T.J. as a child growing up, as each new move meant upheaval and uncertainty. Leaving old friends (and in one case, her beloved, lost little dog, Sinbad) behind and trying to make new friends at new schools was never easy for the somewhat shy yet gregarious introvert.
When it comes to her personality, T.J. has often considered herself to be a contradiction of terms... kind, yet no-nonsense, funny yet serious, gentle yet tough when necessary, shy and introverted, yet very outgoing and personable. These contradictions, according to T.J., can make it difficult for new acquaintances to know how to take her.
Like a phoenix, T.J. has risen from the ashes of a lifetime filled with hurt, heartache, and loss. Her resiliency, determination, and Spirituality have seen her through the darkness of depression and suicidal ideations.
Despite having documented learning disabilities, T.J. served her country in the United States Air Force and the Army Guard. She earned an Associate's Degree in Electronics Engineering Technology, a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology, and recently completed her Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. T.J. plans to earn a PhD degree in Psychology next. She is also looking forward to returning to seeing clients in a therapeutic environment.
T.J. possesses experience as an instructor from her time in the military and as a law enforcement officer, and she has indicated that she would like to teach at the college or university level.
T.J. Christoff lives in North Carolina with her three absolutely amazing dogs, a cat that T.J. says "pretty much runs the show", and a large tank full of freshwater fish!
T.J. loves all living beings, and she always seems to be rescuing something...frogs, lizards, ladybugs, butterflies, slugs, baby birds or bunnies, baby deer, or some other creature in need of help. Once she even rescued a Turkey Vulture on her way to a job interview!! T.J. still believes that it was her talk of that rescue to the panel of interviewers, and her having mentioned that the vulture was waiting for her in her car to be taken to a rehaber following the interview, which is what really secured her position with that company!
T.J. began writing poetry at the age of 16 years. She will be the first to tell you that the words she writes are not her own, but rather, that she is just a conduit for a much higher source to pass messages though for purposes that are as of yet unknown to her.
Some readers/listeners may find poems in T.J. Christoff's collection to be emotionally stirring. Please understand, that is generally the nature of poetry and is to be expected. T.J. does not condone or support self-harm, harm to others, or the senseless harm/suffering of animals.

Take a few minutes to get to know a bit about T.J., and the journey that has been her life. The bio section may stir some questions for you, so T.J. invites you to hold onto them until you reach the end of the page, and drop her a line. You can also contact T.J. directly at tjchristoff1965@gmail.com
She would love to connect with you!

The first book T.J. published was her autobiography titled Suicide: One Person's Journey to Making the Choice.
T.J. began writing poetry at the age of sixteen. Since then, she has published nine poetry books: My Patchwork Heart: A Collection of Original Poetry 1983 - 2009 (Vol. 1), My Patchwork Heart: A Collection of Original Poetry 2010 - 2014 (Vol. 2), My Patchwork Heart: A Collection of Original Poetry 2014 - 2016 (Vol. 3), My Patchwork Heart: A Collection of Original Poetry 2016 - 2020 (Vol. 4), My Patchwork Heart: Complete Collection (1983 - 2020), Author of My Soul: A Collection of Original Poetry 2022 - 2024 (Vol. 1), Author of My Soul: A Collection of Original Poetry 2024 - 2025 (Vol. 2), Author of My Soul: A Collection of Original Poetry 2025 (Vol. 3), Author of My Soul: A Collection of Original Poetry 2025 - 2026 (Vol. 4).
T.J. has also published two inspirational books: Today I'm Reminded: 366 Days to Mindfulness and Awakening, ~ I Am ~ Reconnecting to Your Higher Self: 366 Days to Mindfulness and Awakening,
She currently has one other book she began writing some time ago, but has been put on hold titled, The Brat Pact: The Promises We Meant to Keep.

T.J. has created this "Featured" section to showcase her newest poetry creations as they come to her. The featured new creation will remain in this section and will only be removed when a new volume of poetry has been completed. Once a new volume of poetry has been completed, it will be relocated to another page on her website. This will allow T.J.'s readers an easier method for determining what is new from that which might have been on her site for awhile.

Here T.J. gives you a sneak peek into
what you will find on one of the following pages on her website, For example, T.J. has included some comedy videos to bring some humor and laughter to your day. For those interested in psychology and Stoicism, here you will find some information to hopefully get you thinking. Are you someone who likes a good animal rescue story? Well, T.J. shares some of her rescue stories with you along with pictures. T.J. believes music is food for the soul. Here on her site, you will find some of the songs T.J. frequently enjoys listening to that she finds especially moving for her own personal reasons. She hopes you will find them enjoyable as well. Are you a Gen-Xer? T.J. shares some memories specific to the Gen-X visitors to her site.
T.J. would love to connect with her visitors. Feel free to drop her a line at the email address below if you have any questions or feedback.

Here T.J. shares with you her latest book releases. Along with a picture of the book's cover, T.J. provides a discription of the book and a link you can click on that will redirect you to Amazon.com should you wish to purchase a copy of the book for yourself or someone else.
T.J. will also introduce her latest blog posts on this page, with full blog posts located on p. 6.
T.J. would love your feedback, and she invites you to send her a message either through the chat box at the lower right of the screen, or to correspond wirh her directly at
You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.

Here T.J. gives you a look at the newest Amazon book reviews of her books. These reviews are provided to you to give you some insight into the views of other readers, and what they have to say about how T.J.'s books have impacted them. You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
Reviewed in the United States on April 8, 2026 Format: Kindle
This book is a fascinating read about the life of someone who had longstanding suicidal ideations throughout her life. Trigger warning: some of her descriptions of moments when she wanted to or tried to kill herself can be graphic, but they give a lot of understanding to why someone might be called to want to end their lives.
Read more of the review at the link below:
https://www.amazon.com/Suicide-Persons-Journey-Making-Choice/dp/1793133492

T.J. believes that her life experiences are not without value. That there is a reason for everything she has experienced throughout her life, and that she continues to experience. She has no doubt that there is a reason for her existence, just as there is a reason for yours. T.J. believes that if you have found this website, and that if you are reading these words right now, that there is a reason for that too! Therefore, she has decided to share her story with you here. That's right! T.J. has granted FULL ACCESS to her autobiography right here on her website. She does so with this warning statement attached:
T.J. does NOT support or condone in any way, self harm or harm to others. If you are experiencing thoughts of self harm, suicidal ideations or homicidal ideations, T.J. strongly urges you to seek out help and support from a mental health professional right away.
The phone number to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline is 988.
YOUR LIFE MATTERS
AND SO DO YOU!

As with her autobiography, T.J. has decided to grant FULL ACCESS to her book, Today I'm Reminded: 366 Days to Mindfulness and Awakening, here on her website. This particular book in many ways goes hand-in-hand with T.J.'s autobiography. By allowing ourselves to be mindful every single day of the gifts that life presents us with, rather than focusing our attention on the random challenges of life, we are better able to maintain a more positive outlook overall. We tend to feel more balanced and positively energized. We begin to realize that we actually do get to choose whether we will respond or react to what comes our way in life, and what that will look like. And with that, we find ourselves feeling lighter, happier, and more joyful.

On this page, T.J. shares a memory in which she discovered her early attempts as a budding author. Additionally, T.J. shares her "Works in Progress" with you.

T.J. has a blog section where she will stop by on occasion to talk about whatever has captured her innermost musings. This usually occurs when she finds herself in a place of reflection, and she wishes to share with her readers some of the lessons she has learned along her life's journey.

T.J. is very passionate about all things critters! She will tell you that it is a rare thing if she manages to go an entire week without having rescued "something." With her strong belief that all living things have a soul, and that we are all connected, she felt it important to share her interactions with some of those creatures, with you here. T.J. is always deeply moved when she has an opportunity to connect with these non-human creatures, and she hopes you might find the pictures and captions just as inspiring and touching.

~ Sneak Peek ~
Title: The Wrong Side of Life
"Wrong Side of Life, by The Pairs is a reflective folk-pop song exploring the acceptance of life’s imperfections, the inevitability of aging, and finding gratitude in both the "peaks and valleys" of existence. It emphasizes cherishing fleeting moments and allowing life's challenges to shape one's character."
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T.J. believes that music is food for the soul. She is often moved emotionally and inspired deeply by music and song lyrics. T.J. believes that music has a direct influence on a persons aura, and the vibrational energy it emits, as well as one's overall mood.

Title: At Seventeen
"At Seventeen, by Janis Ian is a 1975 soft-rock ballad detailing the pain of teenage social rejection, insecurity, and the cruel disparity between popular "beauty queens" and outcasts. The lyrics explore themes of adolescent loneliness, superficiality, and the, ultimately, fleeting nature of high school popularity."
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The music continues for several pages, as listening to music with the volume turned up and singing songs loudly and with passion are among T.J.'s favorite pasttimes!

~ Sneak Peek ~
"Power of Two, by the Indigo Girls is a song about the power of love and overcoming obstacles in a relationship. The song also reflects on the duo's own journey and the importance of collaboration."

Title: Killing Me Softly with His Song
"The song, Killing Me Softly with His Song, is about being deeply moved by a piece of music. The song's lyrics convey the idea that the music is so beautiful or emotionally resonant that it feels overwhelming."

Title: It's OK
"It's OK, by Nightbirde (Jane Marczewski) is a deeply personal song about finding hope, joy, and self-acceptance while battling terminal cancer. It encourages embracing the feeling of being lost, acknowledging pain, and choosing happiness even when life is hard and 'garbage'."

Title: Dear Younger Me
T.J. hopes you will enjoy this short video, and the other music video's in this section, and that you will take time out of your day today to reflect upon your own life. She understands that everyone's life story is as uniquely different as is the person that recalls the memories of their past, and yet it is her hope that you are all able to find at least one thing to smile about as you reflect on your life today.

~ Sneak Peek ~
“I was standing in my dining room when I noticed out of the corner of my eye, that something had landed on the railing of the deck in my backyard. When I went outside to see what it was, I found a geometrid moth who appeared to have made a crash landing.”
T.J. seems to always find herself in the midst of rescuing one little creature or another. She says she can't help herself. T.J. believes that there is so much innocence and vulnerabiliy to be found and shared among the "rescued" and the "rescuer" alike, that she thought she would take the opportunity so share some video of some of those rescues with you.

A sneak peek at more inspiring videos!

"We're twins because we share the same soul."
In this section, T.J. shares videos she has watched that struck her as particularly moving, inspirational and containg leassons all could benefit from.

If you know anything at all about T.J., then you know she loves to laugh. Laughter, like music, is food for the soul in T.J.'s opinion, and this website would not be complete if she didn't bring in some laughter for her viewers to enjoy. T.J. shares some video's that she has found particularly enjoyable, and she hopes you will be able to find reason to laugh also as you take a few minutes out of your busy day to relax and watch a bit.

R.I.P.
T. J. has written a number of poems in honor of loved ones passed. Regardless of whether they existed in human or animal form, T.J. believes in honoring these souls just the same. She shares those poems with you in this section as a way to continue to keep their spirits alive. She asks that you take a moment to share in the honoring of their sentient existance by reading a poem or two while you are here, while taking time to remember those loved ones that may have passed from your life as well, if you so choose.

Here T.J. gives you a look at the newest Amazon book reviews of her books. These reviews are provided to you to give you some insight into the views of other readers, and what they have to say about how T.J.'s books have impacted them. You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/My-Patchwork-Heart-Collection-Original-ebook/dp/B07N4C32HB/

T.J. continues to write poetry as the inspiration moves her. This is the second of her four volume collection. You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/My-Patchwork-Heart-Collection-Original-ebook/dp/B07ZDM92Q5/

As the time passes and T.J. moves through her life's journey, her experiences are reflected in the poems that she writes. You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/My-Patchwork-Heart-Collection-Original-ebook/dp/B08JHQ44J7/

The journey progresses in volume four as T.J. continues to make her way through her life experiences, all the while learning and growing. You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/My-Patchwork-Heart-Collection-Original-ebook/dp/B08JK3S758/

This is the first volume in a second collection of original poems penned by author, T.J. Christoff. T.J. often acknowledges that she is simply the conduit which these words of poetry flow through. Being the very spiritual person that she is, T.J. wanted to honor that aspect of herself as much as possible throughout the construction of this new collection of poems. Whether through the words themselves or the tone they took T.J. believes that you will be able to feel the essence of her soul throughout the pages of this volume as you read the poems that came to her and through her over time. You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/Author-My-Soul-Collection-Original-ebook/

This is the second volume in the second collection of original poems penned by author, T.J. Christoff. As noted in the description of T.J.'s first volume of Author of My Soul: A Collection of Original Poetry, T.J. sees herself as simply the conduit by which poems flow through. T.J. feels grateful to be able to share these works of poetry with others who may appreciate their meaning and the emotional stirrings they may evoke. When receiving the words she writes, T.J. may find a poem presents itself completely within a matter of moments, or with only a few words appearing initially as a quick thought, only to reveal itself to completion more slowly over time. There is no limit on what T.J. may write about, as again, she writes what she receives. However, most of the poems found in T.J.'s collections are easily understood. They are centered on real-life experiences with relatable, emotion-filled concepts that will surely tug at the tightest of heartstrings. You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/Author-My-Soul-Collection-Original-ebook/

This is the third volume in the second collection of original poems penned by author T.J. Christoff. As a writer, T.J. sees herself as simply the conduit for words to flow through. T.J. began writing poems at the age of 16, and in 2006, she wrote her autobiography titled Suicide: One Person's Journey to Making the Choice. This volume marks T.J.'s tenth published work, and she insists that she has more on the horizon. T.J. describes the poems she pens as being thought-provoking, inspiring, emotionally moving, and easily relatable. T.J. says, "If you have lived life at all, you will be able to relate to much of what you find within the pages of the books I've written." Grab a copy! sit awhile, and allow your heart and soul to travel!
https://www.amazon.com/Author-My-Soul-Collection-Original/dp/B0FX7PRKQL

This is the final volume in T.J. Christoff’s "Author of My Soul: A Collection of Original Poetry". T.J. finds great honor and joy in being able to be the conduit for the words of rhyme to flow through as it sees fit. T.J. began writing poems at the age of 16. Originally, it was a means for her to express the feelings and emotions she was unable to verbally articulate. Writing just came easier for her during her more difficult, adolescent years.
The poems that T.J. shares are easy to read and relate to. If you have experienced life at all, then T.J. is certain that you will be able to relate to the poems you will find within the covers of the poetry collections she shares with you. Inspirational, moving, thought-provoking, and relatable. That’s what you will find as you read the poems penned by T.J.
Grab yourself a beverage and a cozy spot to relax and read for a bit. T.J. assures you, you won’t be disappointed!
https://www.amazon.com/Author-My-Soul-Collection-Original/dp/B0GSGCVH9N

Hindsight is 20/20. I doubt there are many people who if given a chance, wouldn’t like the opportunity to go back in time and change some, if not all of their past. Be it the choices they made as an individual or the things that affected them in some negative or hurtful way. It is the events of our past combined with our individual innate sensitivities that each of us possess, however, that contributes to the making of the person each of us will ultimately become. Each generation holds within it certain truths. The way children were raised 50 or 60 years ago, could not be scarcely imagined by the children of today. The discipline imposed by parents onto their children of only 30 or 40 years ago, while acceptable then would have been judged as abuse by today’s standards. It is only through years of living that one is able to mentally go back in time to evaluate the affects life as a child has had on them. It is also through years of living, that we are able to truly appreciate and put to use those lessons that were taught to us so many years ago. Through time, the recollection of certain incidents may become clouded. Some facts or details recalled differently from one person to the next. That doesn’t make an event any less real or accurate within the individual mind of the person that recalls it, or any less important. While there may be emotional pains associated with an individual’s upbringing, it is imperative that we try to look past the pain to the lesson. In every situation we encounter throughout the course of our lives, from childhood through adulthood, we have an opportunity to learn something. The only things preventing us from learning these lessons are our own fear, anger, pride and sheer unwillingness. There will always be pain, hurt and loss as long as there is life. There are no cookie-cutter designs for the perfect parent or for the perfect child. We use what we learn and experience as children, to hopefully someday become stronger adults and eventually better parents for our own children. As we grow into adults, we are faced with other issues that bring about the feeling of pain, hurt and loss. Each incident will affect us in a way that may or may not be understood by others in society, but once again, that perception from one person to the next is no less real or important. Life is a journey. A race filled with obstacles and lessons, starting from conception and continuing throughout life until finally reaching its end in death. Enjoy your journey…for you know not when it shall end!
https://www.amazon.com/Suicide-Persons-Journey-Making-Choice/dp/1793133492

Today I'm Reminded: 366 Days to Mindfulness and Awakening is a fun book that T.J. says should be on a coffee table in every home. It reminds the reader to take a moment to be truly present at least once every day. This is done with simple little thoughts, such as, "Today I'm Reminded: When you make it a point to keep doing what makes you happy, you never need a bucket list!", and "Today I'm Reminded: It's none of my business what anyone else thinks of me." T.J. had the foresight to include an extra day to account for leap year! You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/Today-Im-Reminded-Mindfulness-Awakening-ebook/dp/B07N388R8H/

If you want to make God laugh, tell Him/Her your plans! T.J. never had any intention to make 366 Days to Mindfulness and Awakening a series. However, ever since writing that book, she has been receiving inspiration for a second volume, which resulted in ~ I Am ~ Reconnecting to Your Higher Self: 366 Days to Mindfulness and Awakening. Ever since publishing Today I'm Reminded in Janruary of 2019 on Amazom.com, the book has received nothing less that 5 stars on any of it's reviews! T.J. is hopeful that ~ I Am ~ Reconnecting to Your Higher Self, will do just as well. T.J. invites you to check out this new addition and welcomes your feedback in the chat box on the lower right of your screen or you may contact her at tjchristoff1965@gmail.com.
You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/Reconnecting-Your-Higher-Self-Mindfulness-ebook/dp/B0CW1JJ5SH/

T.J. began writing poetry at the age of sixteen years. She will tell you that she is a terrible writer, and that she is always able to tell when a poem has been truly inspired, compared to when she has attempted to do the writing herself. She says that for the longest time she didn't understand why she was chosen to be the conduit for some greater being to pass messages through, but that she is grateful every time she receives a poem that truly gives her pause after it has been penned. You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/My-Patchwork-Heart-Collection-Original-ebook/dp/B07N4C32HB/

T.J. continues to write poetry as the inspiration moves her. This is the second of her four volume collection. You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/My-Patchwork-Heart-Collection-Original-ebook/dp/B07ZDM92Q5/

Poems can tell stories through short, succinct verses, while at the same time conveying volumes through relatable, heartfelt imagery. Many of T.J.'s poems are born from her lived experiences. While others are whispered to her soul at twilight, only to be penned at the light of dawn.
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The journey progresses in volume four as T.J. continues to make her way through her life experiences, all the while learning and growing. You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/My-Patchwork-Heart-Collection-Original-ebook/dp/B08JK3S758/

This is the first volume in a second collection of original poems penned by author, T.J. Christoff. T.J. often acknowledges that she is simply the conduit which these words of poetry flow through. Being the very spiritual person that she is, T.J. wanted to honor that aspect of herself as much as possible throughout the construction of this new collection of poems. Whether through the words themselves or the tone they took T.J. believes that you will be able to feel the essence of her soul throughout the pages of this volume as you read the poems that came to her and through her over time. You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/Author-My-Soul-Collection-Original-ebook/

This is the second volume in the second collection of original poems penned by author, T.J. Christoff. As noted in the description of T.J.'s first volume of Author of My Soul: A Collection of Original Poetry, T.J. sees herself as simply the conduit by which poems flow through. T.J. feels grateful to be able to share these works of poetry with others who may appreciate their meaning and the emotional stirrings they may evoke. When receiving the words she writes, T.J. may find a poem presents itself completely within a matter of moments, or with only a few words appearing initially as a quick thought, only to reveal itself to completion more slowly over time. There is no limit on what T.J. may write about, as again, she writes what she receives. However, most of the poems found in T.J.'s collections are easily understood. They are centered on real-life experiences with relatable, emotion-filled concepts that will surely tug at the tightest of heartstrings. You can find this book for sale at the link below on Amazon.com.
https://www.amazon.com/Author-My-Soul-Collection-Original-ebook/

T.J. shares videos on Twin Flames and Soul Connections on this page. She has also included a video she created showing her love and connection with creatures of all shapes and sizes that she has had the joy of interacting with. Some of these critters were, and may still be, what she would call "family."

Spirituality is a very big part of T.J.'s life. In fact, she will tell you that it is at the core of who she is. As such, T.J. has chosen to share various aspects of her spirituality with her readers as well. T.J. has recognized that for her, had she not had the spiritual connection that she does, her story would have no doubt turned out with a much more grim ending. She hopes you will find her writings regarding spirituality of interest and of benefit to you, however, she also understands that not everyone has an interest in such things, and invites you to move past that section if you so choose.

Life is a Journey, Not a Race...Allow Yourself Time to Just Breathe!!

"Stoicism is an ancient Greek and then Roman philosophy of the Hellenistic and Roman Imperial periods.[1] The Stoics believed that the universe operated according to reason, or logos,[2] providing a unified account of the world, constructed from ideals of rational discourse, monistic physics, and naturalistic ethics.[3] These three ideals constitute virtue, which is necessary for the Stoic goal of 'living a well-reasoned life'."[4]

Highlife Small Creature Cemetery was created by T.J. to provide a quite resting place for the smallest of creatures whose paths crossed T.J.'s either as they were in their final moments of life, or after they had already crossed over. T.J. believes that all living beings possess a soul, and that once they pass away, whenever possible, it is important to remember them with care and dignity.

T.J. has included a contact form so you can reach out to her with any questions or comments you might have. Please understand that T.J. is all about kindness and respect, and therefore, she will only respond to those messages that refrain from negativity or hostility. T.J. believes that we get back what we put out into the Universe, and therefore, she chooses to refrain from engaging in interactions that do not strive to promote a positive interaction. You may contact T.J. via email at: tjchristoff1965@gmail.com

You may notice that there are times when it seems that nothing new is appearing on T.J.'s website. Don’t let this lull fool you. It is during this time that T.J.'s inspiration is "UNDER CONSTRUCTION." Inspiration is something that can't be rushed, and T.J. appreciates your patience and understanding during these slower times.

T.J. has added page numbers at the top left of each page of the website to help you navigate the site more efficiently.

T.J. has added a chat button in the lower right hand corner of the screen. By using this chat feature, you can quickly send a message to T.J., and she will respond as quickly as possible. You can also contact T.J. via email at
TJ is grateful for all of her readers and customers, so feel free drop her a note with any questions you might have. Be sure to let her know what inspires you, and what you are grateful for today!
Monroe, North Carolina 28112, United States

Check back soon for the chance to preview the latest New Poems, Thoughts to Ponder, and Words to Live By, as the Powers That Be brew up the content for another of T.J.'s upcoming books!

Please be patient as T.J. undergoes the process of allowing inspiration to construct within her the poems, thoughts, and words she is meant to share.
THANKS!!